Search for Home

It’s raining when I arrive at the front door of my parents’ house with my blue umbrella open. I’m looking forward to a cup of coffee.

True, it’s different than it used to be. I make the coffee and I bring the cake with me. We are talking about the biography of my parents, which has just been completed, 135 pages. It’s about their childhoods, flight and expulsion after the war and about building a new existence, together.

After all my years abroad and the constant “being on the road for work”, I feel a bit at home. To a certain extent. Because we, my spouse and I, still commute between this small town with a holiday feeling and a big city near the airport. Also because we are still traveling between the worlds. From Germany to Australia and back.

Arriving in the small town of our childhood, we value our independence at the same time. This is also why we have our small holiday apartment with Black Forest character (in the picture on the right), a few minutes’ walk from our two parents’ houses. Each. Just in a different direction.

I have often wondered where my home is. I grew up in this small Swabian town where my parents moved shortly before I was born. I never really learned a broad Swabian accent, because High German was cultivated at home. At school, it helped me a lot for my achievements, but it made me an outsider. It’s a good thing I was a talented football (Am. soccer) player. I was accepted in the club and developed a“being-at-home-feeling“ there.

Home does not simply arise, but people actively shape their own sense of home. Research found, that „home“ means shaping relationships with places and the people living there according to one’s own needs and thus taking responsibility for oneself, but also for the place and the people there.

This is how Mona Gabriel describes it in her wonderful book “Zuhause, aber trotzdem fremd“ (At Home but still a Stranger, pp. 45, 238).

It is with this perspective that I look at the curriculum vitae of my parents in terms of what they tell and how it is now written. And I discover my traces in the cosmos of these thoughts and perceive how they fit into the puzzle of my ideas journal of the last two decades. Fascinating.

To shape the future, it is good to know the past.

➡️ And you?  How do you look at your past when you think about the future?

My name is Bernd Scharbert and I support executives and leaders with my experience from over 30 years of leadership experience in the corporate world. Especially when it comes to the question of how to reconcile family, work and life. If you are interested, feel free to follow me on LinkedIn, #prepare4landing or contact me directly.

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