If you ask, you win

May 6, 2024, a 25-year anniversary of a feedback.

If you ask, you win
If you talk, you hear yourself twice
If you ask, you lead
Those who preach tire others and learn nothing.

The post-it is firmly anchored in my journal and its date of origin is recorded. I can still remember the situation today.

My mentor and accompanying advisor “HJR” as a silent listener on the back bench was probably getting more and more nervous that I didn’t get the hang of it, away from talking and towards listening.

First without a word, he then handed me the handwritten note and added a moment later: “Let’s talk about it tomorrow”.

He didn’t need many words. And neither do I today. I had truly learned my lesson.

Some in my network may be able to assign the abbreviation. HJR was a great mentor to me and I am grateful to him for it to this day.

@Minette Norman recently wrote here (https://lnkd.in/gxhRE72W)
“Perhaps someone long ago played an important role in your career. I hope this post prompts you to reach out to mentors and sponsors from your past.”

This post is my answer. Thank you, Minette, for your inspiration.

I am Bernd Scharbert and my job as a facilitator for leaders and executives is to accompany them in such a way that globally composed and intercultural teams have the opportunity to develop further as a team. If you are interested, feel free to follow #Prepare4Landing or contact me directly.

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